I recently read an article that promised seven concrete steps to reaching my full potential. They were: “Reflect on your life, become an optimist, set a goal, define who your role models are, be grateful, become a lifelong learner, embrace change.” That all sounds good but it feels more abstract then concrete to me. I think there is a vital piece to achieving your full potential that is missing – why you want it.
I ask my clients that question a lot, Why, and I find it to be one of the most difficult things I ask. It is amazing to me how many adults do things out of a sense of obligation to ghosts from their past (and even their future). Of course I am certainly not suggesting we all give up our responsibilities and go in search of ourselves. But I do think we would do well to have a better understanding of what is motivating our behavior.
Here is another question I ask: What does success mean to you? I have found that success isn’t a thing that is achieved but something that is experienced. So perhaps a better question is What would the experience of success feel like to you? And even more importantly, Why does having that experience matter?
If you can’t answer those questions, you are going to be disconnected from whatever success you do achieve. It won’t feel like it belongs to you and it will be hollow. So instead of all the ra-ra, yay-me things we are told about our potential and success, let’s get down on paper why what we do matters to us. And if we don’t know, maybe we need to be playing a different game.
Are you playing a game that matters to you? Do you think you will see success coming or just wake up one morning and find it has arrived? Share with us in the comments!
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Dr. Robyn Odegaard (aka “Doc Robyn”) is a nationally known motivational speaker, executive wordsmith and conflict resolution expert. As CEO of Champion Performance Development, she works with executives, professionals, athletes, coaches, parents, and faculty to help them achieve excellence in all aspects of life through the development of leadership, teamwork, effective communication, productive conflict and professional disagreement skills – strategies typically reserved for high-level corporate executive training. She is the founder of the Stop The Drama! Campaign and author of the book Stop The Drama! The Ultimate Guide to Female Teams.